You are your own friend

You are your own friend, even before you become someone else's. Always keep that in mind. The reason? The reason being is that people come and go, but you, you stay with yourself till the end. Till the last moment.

There's this famous Hindi song - 'Aadmi Musafir Hai' sung by Lata Mangeshkar and Mohammed Rafi and from that very song, I would quote some lines.

"Aadmi musafir hai,
aata hai jaata hai.
Aate jaate raste pe,
yaadein chor jaata hai."

Meaning - Man is a wanderer, a traveler. He comes in and goes out of our life, and in these journeys, he leaves behind only memories, with which we have to live.

The important point is, that we make others much more important to us than we are to ourselves. And I guess, that's where we are going wrong. Our tendency to love and respect others more than our own selves, makes us doubt our worth and value.

True, it is said, that we have to stay with people who make us feel valued, but we need to value ourselves first. Unless we know our self-esteem and self-worth, no one's going to value us.

Not having a good relationship with ourselves, would make us want to have more friends so that we can receive the love from them, that we fail to give ourselves. That, in turn, increases our expectations from others. And, as we all know, expectations lead to disappointments.

So, sweethearts, in the end, love yourself. So much so that you won't feel the need for anyone else's.

Yours,

M 💓

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